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BY STEPHANIE SWILLEYBack to main article

Forget the “there’s nothing to do” excuse. Plenty of active singles are out having a great time, living their lives to the fullest. So find a sitter for the cat and don’t come home until you’ve quit complaining about being single.

1. Recruit friends and family.
If your family is like most, getting them involved in your love life won’t be a problem. Ask them for support, not dates. They can cheer you up, boost your ego, and generally help you get ready to face the scary dating pool. If getting fixed up rates up there with a root canal, let them know at the start that you’d rather not go out with that friend of a friend who hasn’t had a date—ever. But chances are your network can hook you up with a few gems, so don’t totally rule out blind dates.

2. Attend church events and activities.
While there is no official singles organization at the division level, activities for singles ministry continue to take place in local conferences. You can look for a listing of what’s going on in your area at www.sda-today.com or www.family.nadadventist.org. If there’s not an active Adventist singles group in your area, recruit a single friend to help you start one.

3. Check out Adventist Internet Resources Directory.
This site lets you know what’s going on in singles ministries. It connects you to 11 popular singles sites, including Adventist Friendship Café and Adventist Singles Online: www.atoday.com/resources/directory/
Programs_and_Ministries/Singles_Ministries/
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4. Find a Bible study group.
Check around your city for a weekly Bible study. Try a nondenominational one. Austin, Texas, has Austin Live! and Nashville, Tennessee, has Music City Metro. A great ministry to young adults, primarily singles, these groups teach basic Christian truths and create a great place for fellowship. And better yet—start your own. There’s nothing like getting a group together that includes Adventists and other Christians you know. Not only will you experience fellowship, you’ll be able to engage in challenging conversation and learn about other faith groups—and of course, other people.

5. Shop online.
Check out Adventist Singles Online, a free Web site connecting Adventists to other single Adventists who share the same beliefs. Or join more than 1,300 Adventist singles online at Shining Star Christian Singles Matchmaking International Web site.

6. Volunteer.
Become a mentor or help out at an animal shelter. Work at a soup kitchen or teach someone to read. You’ll meet other socially conscious folks and feel a lot better about yourself in the process.

7. Take a fabulous vacation.
If you’re the outdoorsy type, book an adventure trip. You can go safari in Africa, white-water rafting, mountain climbing, sailing, or skiing. You’ll meet lots of people out enjoying life and get some great stories of your own.

8. Go to a bookstore or join a book club.
Stores such as Books-A-Million and Barnes and Noble now have cafés where you can while away some free time with a great book or just enjoy people watching. Browse the right sections, and you’ll meet a myriad of new people. Become a book club regular, but women, stay away from the all-women groups still getting weepy over The Bridges of Madison County.

9. Take up a sport.
Join a softball team or take a martial arts class. Visit the local park with your dog or test out a new pair of rollerblades. Just do something!

10. Get educated.
Continuing education classes can be a gold mine—if you know which ones to take. Women should enroll in a finance class, such as “Managing Your Portfolio” or “Get Rich in Real Estate.” Computer courses are also a plus. Men are bound to be the center of attention in a pottery or ceramics class.

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